Don’t climb over that wall, by Loredana De Vita, review by Daniela Domenici

It’s one of the most beautiful, most painful, most true, most exciting book I have ever read, it’s a punch in your stomach which leaves you numb, it’s a story of women, of their courage, of their silence, of their strength, it’s the attempt of a woman to know her mother better to understand her and herself, it is the true and brutal witness of a violence, perpetrated for years, in the most subtle ways, both physical and psychological: this work of Loredana De Vita, teacher and writer of Naples, is this and much more else.

There has been a moment, I confess it to you and to the author, in which I was going to interrupt the reading of it because of the pain it was giving me, then I have decided I had to continue for Maria and for Francesca, the two extraordinary protagonists of this story, because if I had stopped reading it I would have contributed to the “omertà”, to the silence, to the connivence which surrounds and cloaks the silent, daily drippings, hidden to people’s eyes, to maintain the “facciata, the good repute but which inevitably lead to a new case of femicide or womancide, as I prefer to call it.

Loredana De Vita has had the strength and the wonderful cleverness to narrate this true story (which has been told to her and which has made her suffer while writing it) to give her contribution in order to make more and more women find the courage to denounce, to speak, to share, to get help, not to stay locked up in their shell of pain being convinced that it is right this way because they are women.

De Vita succeeds in narrating this story without ever judging Giovanni’s behaviour, with a look, always full of respect, sweetness and love, for Maria and her family, for Marco and Francesca and uses the moving stylistic escamotage to link the chapters with a narration inside the narration which leads us, drop by drop, to the unexpected end.

It would be nice and useful if this book could be read by students in high schools in order to help them to grow up as better, more aware women and men: Loredana, thank you from the bottom of my heart for your courage and your cleverness!